One-way glass

When we don't like to look at ourselves in the mirror it is because we are afraid we might not like the person we see in the reflection... Facing oneself is a very hard thing to do...

One way glass

I am a voice teacher, and over the years I've found that if I get my students to inspect themselves in the mirror as they sing they will recognize their problems, which in turn leads to quicker learning. Most of my adult students have a hard time doing this. It takes a lot of convincing and coaxing on my part just to get them in front of a mirror. When, finally, they are in position, it's even harder to convince them to look at themselves. Even when they seem to be ready, they still manage to cheat by looking away as soon as they feel their trouble spots approaching. As a person who likes to get quickly to the core of a problem, this greatly annoys the living daylights out of me.

My voice teacher, who is very dear to me, says every now and then that if her students figure out how to sing they would then have their lives (or at least parts of them) figured out. It's all because singing is very truthful. A singer cannot afford not to face her true self, for if she can't get over the fear of finding out (the truth), she will never correct or solve her issues.

When we don't like to look at ourselves in the mirror it is because we are afraid we might not like the person we see in the reflection. But this is the whole point, and if we avoid the person staring back, then we deny the opportunity of seeing ourselves from the other side. Facing oneself is a very hard thing to do. It takes a lot of courage, and it is crucial that we all do it every so often in order to make self-assessments. We must check-up on ourselves from time to time and fine tune, shedding the layers we have built to cover up those things we don't want to see in ourselves, and then re-evaluating what's within once we've stripped away the mask. One must self-assess without prejudice, and with no goal other than to find who he is at the particular time and place. The next step- asking if we like our findings and making adjustments as necessary- is a lot easier.

I do this, and I am hoping that some of those who jut out their chins while proclaiming defiantly, "Of course, I self-assess!" will re- evaluate honestly, replacing the one-way glass that has made a home in their hearts, with a true mirror. It's for their own good, and not for anyone else. When people don't like who you are or what you do, they can always walk away if they choose, but you can never walk away from yourself. Choose between a one-way glass and a mirror. The choice is yours.

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