Can I ask you a question?

Saving English One Word At A Time.

An English tutoring column by Ralph Schatzki who would like you to join him in the task of saving the language, step-by-step, word-by-word, one person at a time.

Can I ask you a question? Ralph Schatzki explains in this article the uses of can and may. Saving English One Word At A Time

Can I ask you a question?

Uh, just did.

Seriously: there are a couple of issues here. The distinction between "can" and "may" is not difficult. The first word asks whether or not one has the ability, the second whether or not someone has permission. For instance, if a child asks his parents for permission to stay up, he says "May I stay up late?" The parents, wondering if he can keep his eyes open late into the night, might answer "Yes, if you can." Or, at a restaurant, if someone asks "Can I have the last appetizer?" a proper response might be "Of course- but I'd like it, too."

Precision in Language

Precision in language is always advisable, of course, yet if you know what someone means to say- whether because of common word usage or past history or circumstance- it is often considered bad form to act as if he means what he says: To grab the last fried zucchini off the plate, at the same time answering your dinner partner's question with, "Yes, but you're too late, ha-ha!" might not get you another dinner invitation. On the other hand, if you're dealing with someone whom you are teaching- your child, or a student, for example- it might be worthwhile to expound on the distinction between different words.

"Can" Commonly Used in Classroom Scenario

It reminds me of the numerous times when students in my classroom would ask, "Can I ask you a question?" My response was always, "You just did." Inevitably, the next utterance would be, "Can I ask you another question?" I would smile and chuckle and say, feigning sheepshness, " just did." At this point there was always a long pause, and I could sense the student trying to figure out how actually to get answered the question he wanted to ask. Finally, "Can I ask two more questions?" The whole class, now, would laugh- partly because it was following along, and partly because it anticipated my response: "Yes- you have one left."

Now, it must be pointed out that I dealt with students who were sometimes bored in the classroom, not to mention that English was- for most of them- their second language. I don't advise acting so pompous in most circumstances. Know your audience! In fact, even when dealing with students it is sometimes inappropriate to expect too much. In the movie Avalon, there is a scene where the teacher is explaining the difference between "can" and "may," but a student isn't paying attention because he desperately has to go to the bathroom. When he asks, "Can I go to the bathroom, please," it makes for a humorous, if uncomfortable, scene.

HTML Comment Box is loading comments...

Return to Top

About Column Contributor

Ralph Schatzki

A proofreader, editor, author, math teacher and tutor, professional opera singer, ex-lawyer (by his own choice), sports fan, husband and father. He has lived on both American coasts, as well as in the southwest and midwest, and overseas in Thailand for more than thirteen years. He loves to read, write and perform, to watch sports, and to spend time with his family.
If you are pleased with this column,
please treat us to
a cup of Joe!

Help us continue on our mission. Please extend your helping hands.-La CoffeeMelodie Suite

You Are Secure!

Your support will enable us to continue providing you with the best quality content.
Thank you.

SBI! 2.0